.png)
You deserve to be happy and healthy.
You deserve to be happy and healthy. Even more, you deserve a happy and healthy marriage. When I say healthy, I mean vibrant, beautiful, flourishing, and abundant. Stop second-guessing yourself. Don’t settle for anything less. This can be you. This should be you! All you need is to find that connection that helps you unravel your Growth Code and the Growth Code of your marriage. That’s what THE WIFE CONNECT offers.
In THE WIFE CONNECT program, in order to connect you with that marriage you dream of, we also teach you how to “disconnect” from mindsets, beliefs, and habits that you have learnt and embodied from your past and from your upbringing. We teach you to be intentional about unraveling your past so that you can become a better seed and then grow into a flourishing plant which ultimately makes you a better person for your marriage.
Wives (and women) in THE WIFE CONNECT program get to work with me on a one-on-one basis through the process. Just YOU & ME! We unravel, uncover, unearth all that’s hidden and then uproot bad seeds. I work with you in replanting the right seeds while investing the time and resources to water it and watch it grow. I know what you feel, I know how it hurts. You can get through it.
People don’t understand or haven’t decrypted their personal Growth Code as well as the Growth Code of their marriage. Many wives don’t realize that marriage is like a tree that goes through three main phases: Planting, Growing, and Flourishing.
Wives struggle in their marriages because they don’t understand what “seed” they need to sow when their marriages are in crisis. They also don’t understand how and where exactly they need to sow this seed in order to achieve the intended result. If you are dealing with Anger in your marriage for instance, you need to know what seeds to plant in your heart and in the heart of your marriage. Seed of gentleness and reflective thinking, for instance, can be the game changer.
Wives also struggle because they don’t understand the watering system of marriage. They don’t know what to do when a seed has been sowed. “Now that I’ve planted the seed, what do I do in the meantime?” They don’t know how to nurture (water and fertilize) in a way that guarantees germination and fruit-bearing.
STRUGGLES & STAGNACY
Happen in marriage because...
The Wife Connect Framework
Self-Awareness incorporates self-worth and self-development. This module turns you inward. It makes you the object of inquiry and assessment. It teaches you to place the responsibility of change on you before your spouse. You have a soul, a mind, and a behavioral pattern which means you can hold yourself accountable and be the change you want to see in your marriage. This module also deals with Personality Compatibility assessments.
.png){kind=small}
Growth Code Discovery involves Background/Upbringing Assessments and Conversations on Mindset, Temperament, Worldview, Strengths, Weaknesses, and Possible Solutions to existing problems. In this module, we’ll come to a set of “rules” and instructions that if followed, will guarantee movement in the right (and positive) direction and ultimately, progress in the long run.
Fertilization Assessment (the Intimacy Flourish Scale) is a set of measures to help track and understand what your “marriage plant” is lacking. This assessment utilizes a “Fertilizing Agent Scale” to measure where you are at with the TEN Fertilizing Agents on a scale of 0 to 10. “0” meaning “I am absolutely lacking in this area of my marriage/relationship” and “10” meaning “I am absolutely flourishing in this area of my marriage/relationship”.
The Spiritual Development module provides inspiration, practices, and guidance that deepens your connection with God and feeds your spirit with knowledge that can help in renewing your mind and transforming your attitude.
What's Included:
60 minutes virtual reflective session conversation
Guided assessment of your marriage/relationship Intimacy Flourish Scale
A personalized list of resources to nurture your marriage/relationship
After the program...
When you complete THE WIFE CONNECT program, you will be self-aware and full of the knowledge of your worth and how to leverage your strength. Combine that with the fertilizing agents to take your marriage from where it is to a place where it flourishes and fulfills you.
I want to teach you how to be your authentic self while still communicating what you want and what matters!
-
Are your words communicating or creating conflicts?
-
Let me teach you how to leverage your strength.
Remember your spouse has the fear of losing control, you have the fear of hurting others. How does this fact impact your marriage relationship and how you communicate?
Fixing each other in marriage is selfishness, you need to change with or without the influence of your spouse. Fantasy will always win when you place it before reality.
Frequently Asked Questions
-
Do I need coaching or therapy?As a licensed Registered Nurse and a Certified Wife Coach with lots of experience in Mental Health, I understand the importance of professional counseling facilitated by a Licensed counselor, Psychologist, Doctor or therapist. There are wives/wives-to-be I have had to refer to access the aforementioned services because coaching is/was not appropriate for them. It is most important for you to decide to take the first step. You will be redirected as needed. Just take the first step, reach out to a Counselor, Therapist, Doctor, Psychologist, Coach, Neutral Friend, Partner, etc… Just reach out if you need help. I know God will redirect your path till you get to where you need to be/go
-
What if I have been married for longer than 3 years?I tailor my coaching services to women in their initial stages of marriage so that I can help them navigate this major transition and also to ensure they have the tools to build a steady foundation. However, I also coach women who have been married for years. Some of these women are struggling because they do not have the appropriate tool to navigate the current state of their marriage. I can help by going back and digging through the foundation they have built. Together, we can discover the tools they need to flourish in their marriage. You can reach out as well.
-
What if I live in a different time zone?I have had sessions with wives and wives-to-be in Tanzania, Australia, India, Ghana, Dubai, Cameroun, Canada, London, Mozambique, Kenya, Nigeria, etc… I understand the time difference between us can be hard to navigate. I also understand that some wives do not want to have the conversation when their spouse is in the house with them. I make provision to serve you. There are times you might need to wake up really early, stay up really late, talk while sitting in your car or hiding in your closet. We will make it work. We will work it out. Just let me know.
-
How do I get started?My coaching services are mainly designed for wives (newly weds/wives in the initial stages of their marriage) and wives-to-be (those about to get into a relationship/those in a relationship/engaged) You will fill out the appropriate form based on your status. You will then be redirected to a link to schedule a time for us to talk based on your availability.
-
As a wife-to-be, how is my program (what I will learn) different from what the wives learn?As a group, we will learn how to nurture the marriage plants with these fertilizing agents Sexual Intimacy Friendship and trust Communication Conflict Resolution (Anger) Money Management Spiritual intimacy Life balance Confidence Respect Boundaries To Prepare for Marriage, we will focus on all these in addition to the 10 “fertilizing agents” listed above Long Distance Marriage Impact of technology/social media on marriage/relationship How to deal with infidelity and nurture Trust Emotional Vulnerability Multicultural marriage Distance Relationships Temperament Effects of background on relationship/marriage
-
How are the sessions held?The sessions are held virtually via Zoom. You will receive the link in your email.
-
Do you have other resources I can start with?Do you have other resources I can start with? I have spent years putting resources together for wives in the initial stages of their marriage. The videos and daily tools posted on @oneyoungwife instagram page is a free resource for you. I would also recommend you spend time watching the recorded Instagram LIVE conversations I have had with others over the years. These sessions are filled with practical life solutions you can adopt starting now. The One Young Wife WhatsApp community is also an excellent resource. If you send a DM to the @oneyoungwife page, you can chat or speak with our In House counselor as well. You can also send an email to team@oneyoungwife.com someone will be there to help you navigate your journey.
-
Can males attend these sessions?My services are intentionally designed for women.
-
Regarding the 5 Sessions, how often is it held?I understand how hard it is to show up consistently as an employee, for your business, children, spouse, even for friends… I am a resource not another THING you have to STRESS OVER. So relax… During our first session, you will have the opportunity to decide how often you will like the sessions. You can divide it out over months or weeks. We can have the sessions every week for 5 weeks, every other week, every month or every other month.
-
Can I purchase your services as a gift?Yes you can! Make sure you state the recipient's name while filling out the forms. You can also send an email to tomi@oneyoungwife.com or team@oneyoungwife.com